Yes to this. Breaking your own patterns is the starting line, not the victory lap. If you don’t turn that clarity outward, it curdles into self-obsession. That second cycle—where you actually show up better for others—is where the real shift happens. Respect to your parents for teaching what most people never figure out.
It took me way too long to realize that. I was just trying to cram new behaviors on top of what I had, without realizing that I had to remove the old patterns first.
Yes to this. Breaking your own patterns is the starting line, not the victory lap. If you don’t turn that clarity outward, it curdles into self-obsession. That second cycle—where you actually show up better for others—is where the real shift happens. Respect to your parents for teaching what most people never figure out.
It took me way too long to realize that. I was just trying to cram new behaviors on top of what I had, without realizing that I had to remove the old patterns first.
"before you march off to tell others what to do, get your own behaviors in order". This is one of my favorite lines here.
Thanks for the feedback, I’m glad it resonated. It was a good reminder for me and one I’m planning on holding on to